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Saturday, June 28, 2014
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Thursday, June 19, 2014
Marriage Wisdom from an Old-Married-Fool
Marriage Wisdom from
an Old-Married-Fool
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
Anyone who
contemplates marriage usually has deep seeded spoken or un-spoken doubts,
reservations, and fears mostly instilled by their friends and family, not to
mention society in general about whether they can actually spend the rest of
their lives with someone and still love them in the twilight years of their marriage;
rather than want to kill them, blame them, and secretly hate them for years of a
fruitless marriage and a hopelessly
trapped existence with no obvious way
out but an expensive and emotionally devastating divorce, or merciful death.
The truth to why
many marriages fail before their ten year mark is in fact an obvious one
that has existed since the creation of the short double worded statement -“I
Do.” The real reason that many marriages
fall apart is plain and simple SEX, or more to the point – THE LACK OF IT
For the wife in
the relationship marriage becomes more about emotional love over the years rather
than the sexual act of the mechanical relational aspect of love. The trappings
of family life and marriage meld into responsibility and commitment for the
female psyche that hinges more towards stability rather than sexuality. For the
male partner in the long term relationship though, the husband still remains a
young boy in his mind, especially when confronted with ongoing and increasingly
more complicated responsibility and unquestionable commitment. To the husband
sex is usually still the major foundation of their marriage and love becomes
either a convenience, or increasingly more of an inconvenience; mostly again
depending on his needs and not his partners.
The more the
husband is denied sex when he feels he requires it or has earned it, the more the
vicious cycle of sexual animosity manifests itself to both parties involved.
The more the husband acts up or acts out, the more his wife withholds the sex
from her husband that he feels entitled to under law. Finally the boy/man
convinces himself that his entitlement to sex as a “man,” goes beyond his
marriage and the indiscriminant cheating and drawn out affairs begin to happen,
dooming his marriage to its inevitable failure.
Cheaters always
get caught in a marriage and husbands always realize what fools they were to
begin with too late in the game. They proceed to beg for their wife’s
forgiveness and for them to take them back, conditionally or more unlikely
unconditionally. Whether the wife does take him back, or simply and silently
puts up with and endures their spouses indiscretions once again is solely based
on their paternal or internal perceptions of marital responsibility and
commitment, rather than giving their husbands more sex at this point; in fact
the opposite usually occurs sexually and the husband gets even less tang than
he did before after self-creating the isolated capsule that he has made for
himself trying to fly to the moon on his own terms.
Once the thin
line has been crossed between love and hate for the female psyche there is
usually no turning back for her or her husband and the “mutual breakup” becomes
inevitable. This occurrence in the female’s mindset usually is followed by the
negative and unproductively sorry for himself – male hurt feelings. This state
of mind on the husbands part reverts the man even further into the mentality of
the young boy he wishes he still was, and then proceeds to compound his marital
problems even more, usually just in time for his also inevitable – MID LIFE
CRISIS.
The bottom line
and conclusion to this admittedly seemingly hostile to the male mentality and
its attached physical genital appendage that gets husbands in so much
financial, legal, and emotional trouble, is that the ones who stay together for that
eternity of bliss, and sometimes not so blissful happily ever after marriage
are the ones that :
1.
Do so out of both love and fear – love/fear of
their spouses or, fear of living alone now that they are past their prime and
damaged goods on the open glutted dating meat market. (not the best reason)
2.
Secure and subdue their lust while ensuring and
cultivating their love by mutual respect, communication, commitment, and responsibility to each other rather than
individually self-interpreting all four of the fore-mentioned marital musts
that a couple need to share in order to have a healthy, working, and more importantly happy marital
relationship.
3.
Egos must be eliminated, trust must be
initiated, and humility must be cultivated.
The reason I focused
on the male faults that hinder a successful marriage is that I am a male,
egotistical, selfish, ex-cheating, self-loathing, little boy trapped in a man’s
body, twice married old fool, who feels the need and obligation to impart some
hard earned marital wisdom in order to hopefully save someone else the regrets
of learning them later in life rather than sooner. It is also good to remember
that “Till Death Do Us Part,” is just another statement that people use when
put on the spot that really means they have no clue what so ever as to whether
that is really a good thing or a bad thing, or that they are really capable of
the hard work, tough choices, and tests of mutual faith needed to make that
statement a good thing, and true representation of reality in both the couples future.
Good luck and good loving to anyone who is contemplating
making the big step into the big plunge, sincerely - Brian Thomas Armstrong
Monday, June 16, 2014
The Top Ten Simple Truths of Life as We Know It
The Top Ten Simple Truths of Life as We Know It
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
#1. When governments
leave their people nothing left to lose; people choose to lose their governments.
#2. People who judge others refuse to understand others; people who understand other people refrain from judging them.
#3. What we don’t know won’t hurt us; unless it is hurting us already and we just don’t know it.
#4. When things get tough; the weak pack up and leave as fast as they can.
#5. Life is merely an illusion you have created in order to punish yourself for being alive.
#6. Success is usually not a matter of earning it or deserving it; it is usually a matter of opportunity happening to those who were born into it, and usually need it the least.
#7. Ignorance is bliss; suffering is knowledge.
#8. It is better to be dictated by your own flawed logic than someone else’s.
#9. The only thing that you need to instill into your children is forgiveness and unconditional love; it is up to them to understand why, and then learn to use it in their own lives.
#10. A fool listens to a wise man and learns nothing; a wise man listens to a fool and learns - he does not want to be the fool.
#2. People who judge others refuse to understand others; people who understand other people refrain from judging them.
#3. What we don’t know won’t hurt us; unless it is hurting us already and we just don’t know it.
#4. When things get tough; the weak pack up and leave as fast as they can.
#5. Life is merely an illusion you have created in order to punish yourself for being alive.
#6. Success is usually not a matter of earning it or deserving it; it is usually a matter of opportunity happening to those who were born into it, and usually need it the least.
#7. Ignorance is bliss; suffering is knowledge.
#8. It is better to be dictated by your own flawed logic than someone else’s.
#9. The only thing that you need to instill into your children is forgiveness and unconditional love; it is up to them to understand why, and then learn to use it in their own lives.
#10. A fool listens to a wise man and learns nothing; a wise man listens to a fool and learns - he does not want to be the fool.
Cleansing Rain
A Cleansing Rain
by
Brian Thomas Armstrong
Simple tears cleanse my soul
They gently role from cheek to cheek
They heal my wounds of self-infliction
They turn my heart’s aggression meek
My emotions drain and re-arrange in patterns on my face
Dark laced clouds accumulate
And send their cleansing pain
But bright new colors sometimes follow rain
Quandary
Quandary
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
Of all the words I hate to hear
None is worse that comes to ear
Through rain and thunder
Ringing clear
Like gigantic tears on dried skin leather drum-heads
beating
I love you
But do you hate me?
When were alone together
Feeling whole but somehow incomplete
Enclosed with me in our tiny piece of eternity
Unspoken words start to march in my head
They feed my fears
They defeat my facades
They rape what’s dear
They breed what’s bleeding
Then cage what’s free
Marching me ever closer to the thoughts
I refuse to speak because I will not hear them
Screaming
I hate you
But do you love me?
Saturday, June 7, 2014
The World as we Know It
The World as we know it
By Brian Thomas Armstrong
The world as we know it
Can be black or white
It is whiter for others who can see its inner light
Darker for those who have no inner sight
It is brighter for some whether cloudy or sunny
Poorer for some who savior only its money
Glorious and divine to those who seek its true meaning
Inconsequential to those who only mine its gold
Sometimes it’s cruel and demeaning to those
Who lived long enough on it to slowly grow old
When the youth of the world
Fails to listen to the wisdom they hold
The World as we know it can be both black and white
But it is gray for those
Who are unwilling to fight for its darkness or light.
After Almost 8 Years of Obama
After almost eight years of Obama and “Democratic Rule,” can
you truly say that his promises of change, government transparency, financial security,
and hope for a new world of peace have truthfully been fulfilled?
Marijuana acceptance has grown momentum across the nation
along with gay marriage and basic gay rights, but how much of that change was brought
about by Obama’s influence over us rather than an enlightened public that was moving
in that direction anyway?
Are you confident in America’s economy? Anyone who has to
sell something in this country for a living can tell you that no one is buying anything.
We have become complacent with the same-old
same-old whether it is under Republican control or democratic control. How many years of false
“hope” must we be encouraged to endure before we demand real change, real results, real action, and real economic recovery? Regardless of who you vote for in 2016, remember we the people are the only ones we can count on to enact moral, legal, and financial change in our country. Listening to the same old party sing the same old song and dance over and over is only going to get you the new boss that is the same as the old boss regardless of who they claim to represent.
same-old whether it is under Republican control or democratic control. How many years of false
“hope” must we be encouraged to endure before we demand real change, real results, real action, and real economic recovery? Regardless of who you vote for in 2016, remember we the people are the only ones we can count on to enact moral, legal, and financial change in our country. Listening to the same old party sing the same old song and dance over and over is only going to get you the new boss that is the same as the old boss regardless of who they claim to represent.
Friday, May 30, 2014
Thursday, May 29, 2014
Saturday, May 24, 2014
Another Senseless American Shooting
Shifman Family Lawyer Statement:
"My client's mission in life will be to try to prevent any such tragedies from ever happening again," he said. "This country, this world, needs to address mental illness and the ramifications from not recognizing these illnesses."
Shifman said the family is "staunchly against guns" and supports gun-control laws. "They are extremely, extremely upset that anybody was hurt under these circumstances," he said.
(BTA) Statement: "It is time to stop solving our problems in America from behind a Gun - Common sense, decency, compassion, empathy, and social responsibility has always been the key, unfortunately macho mentalities and action hero fantasies and the monetary backing of those who prosper from senseless violence that have prevailed instead in this country for too long - It is truly the crossroads for true "change" in this Nation, and not idle talk of lasting peace for all our countries citizens when it is politically convenient to do so, and muffled silence when it is not."
The Man Who Dressed in Feathered Robes
The Man Who Dressed in Feathered Robes
By Tom Armstrong
To sing in the hallelujah chorus
Tore the purdah from the green skinned
And henna streaked bellies of the maids
Of Samark and lied the lie cheated
The babies fell into Hell and rose
Again to dance in the golden pavilions
In heaven the man whose hauteur was
Impeccable stripped himself naked
Marched out onto the scorched sands
Of the Haj al Jarha raised his arms
To the sky and cried Command Me!
The Lord somewhat startled said,
“Bring me a cheese Danish that
isn’t at least a day old and I will
bless thy seed for generations to come”
Oh! The man said.” I was expecting
something more spectacular.”
“You’ve come to the wrong place.”
Said The Lord.
Tore the purdah from the green skinned
And henna streaked bellies of the maids
Of Samark and lied the lie cheated
The babies fell into Hell and rose
Again to dance in the golden pavilions
In heaven the man whose hauteur was
Impeccable stripped himself naked
Marched out onto the scorched sands
Of the Haj al Jarha raised his arms
To the sky and cried Command Me!
The Lord somewhat startled said,
“Bring me a cheese Danish that
isn’t at least a day old and I will
bless thy seed for generations to come”
Oh! The man said.” I was expecting
something more spectacular.”
“You’ve come to the wrong place.”
Said The Lord.
Friday, May 23, 2014
Burning Down the Ghetto
Burning Down the Ghetto
The ghetto will still always burn in its unfortunate
inhabitants minds, even if they move away!
The things they saw or the tragedies that tormented them
while incarcerated physically and mentally in the roach and rat-ridden slums, dirty
streets, run down shops, and vacant doorways – forever haunts even the ghosts
of poverty.
Sunday, May 18, 2014
The Third Time that the World Died!
A man walked up to me in my normally chaotic subconscious,
an aspect of my psyche of perpetual pursuit by dark themed antagonists. I enjoy
on a nightly basis the continual loops that repeat themselves over and over again
in my sub-conscious dreams. Seeing how everyone is a helper or a hinder-er in
the chaos that is my nightly mental conspiracy, this is all that reigns supreme
in my unconscious sleeping brain during nightly struggles between good and evil
that end in tragedies regardless. I
usually try to sleep without fear of the other inhabits of my dreams by
ignoring them, therefore removing their power from them. I am somewhat suspicious
of the unknown stranger in both my waking, or in this case subconscious realities
of self, but this guy seemed way out of place in my nightly apocalyptic visions
of the subconscious “Reality.” I was accustomed to a certain degree of
rationalism, and this apparition was very serious and rational in the perceived
message that he seemed to be trying to impart unto me, closely looking me in my
mind’s eye and telling me in a calm soothing voice, “ It’s all going to be
alright in the end – regardless of life’s upcoming outcomes.”
Saturday, May 3, 2014
Thursday, May 1, 2014
Sunday, April 27, 2014
The Social Hysteria Bug
Social Hysteria: When many people in a community behave or
react in such an extreme and uncontrollable way due to fear, anger, and/or
other emotional states.
Social hysteria, or otherwise commonly
known as mass hysteria, group
hysteria or collective obsessional behavior, has been around since the
beginning of human history. As long as
fear has been a part of our human nature, the spread of that fear has been
intentionally used for political and military advantage, or unintentionally has
wreaked havoc on whole communities and societies with breaking news, a simple
rumor, or coincidental happenstance that spirals out of control with dangerous,
devastating, and deadly results.
Adolescent girls have notably been the
main culprits of documented incidents of mass hysteria manifesting itself
physically in the form of strange unexplainable medical ailments. The most common manifestation of social
hysteria in young girls is when a group of pubescent girls, usually in a school
setting, all claim to be afflicted by a mysterious group illness. The latest major
documented incident of this type manifested itself in the town of LeRoy, New York in
2012. Twelve high school girls developed
Tourette’s like symptoms that were rumored to be transferred to other potential
victims simply by texting one another. The school was immediately tested for
toxins and none were found, the strange affliction was deemed to be the work of
conversion disorder, otherwise known as mass hysteria.
Early recorded incidences of mass
hysteria have affected whole towns in the past, along with people of all ages
and walks of life. Adolescent girls have
also and unfortunately in the past, brought upon far darker miseries on their
communities with their outbreaks of mass hysteria. The most famous American
incident of documented social hysteria is of course, The Salem Witch
Trials of Massachusetts.
In 1692 four adolescent girls began to have uncontrollable fits that
were blamed on witchcraft, and after the mass hysteria cleared finally, 25
citizens of Salem and its surrounding communities were put to death for being
witches or witch sympathizers.
Pubescent girls can’t be entirely blamed
for mass hysteria and conversion disorder though, one of the earliest and most
famous incidents of mass social hysteria happened in Strasbourg, Alsace
in 1588 while it was part of the Holy Roman Empire. A portion of the town’s residence decided to go
outside and dance in the streets for hours uncontrollably, then after days of no
rest the towns people literally started to fall dead where they danced due to heart attacks, fatigue, and exhaustion
after days of pure unstoppable human social hysteria.
Mass hysteria has been a driving force
in the old world’s public, political and societal history, and with today’s
lightning quick social media entity driving our future it will certainly continue to rear its dangerous
ugly head even in these modern
“enlightened” times. One may not be able to always control human nature nor
mass hysteria, but being aware of its impact on your community, country, or
world is a positive step towards finding immunity from catching the affliction
yourself.
Saturday, April 26, 2014
Friday, April 25, 2014
Whistleblower in the Morning’s Mist - by Brian Thomas Armstrong
Whistleblower in the Morning’s Mist
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
The Whistleblower’s
flute plays its shrill song as it echoes in the morning’s mist of the
surrounding woods outside the giant intricately painted canvas Teepee.
The sand painting
on the ground inside the Teepee is almost finished as the dark Otshee Monetoo that hides within me is partly ejected
through my guts as I heave black bile from my mouth to the ground and the sand painter
stifles an inner groan as he destroys the intricate colored masterpiece he has toiled
over.
The peyote tea was strong medicine and I
have forgotten how many days it has been since I entered the sacred circle within.
I hear the shrill whistle of the
Whistleblower outside the Teepee as I recover from my retching – shreeeeee shreeeeee
shree shree shreeeeee shreeeeee, the only reality that is left to me is here,
and I focus on the small fire that crackles in the middle of our circle and
keeps the tea warm, flaring in puffs of colored smoke as the Shaman tosses
strange fragrant powders into the flames.
A young couple tries to leave the circle
of the giant tent but they are stopped at the door and sternly told to sit back
down and return to it lest they break the strong magic, and risk a black cloud raining
down misfortune on us all for angering and disrespecting the spirits that were called
upon by the Shaman.
How long has it been? How much longer can
I last? Are they killing me?
Once again the Otshee Monetoo
that hides within me is partly ejected through my guts as I heave black bile
from my mouth to the ground and the sand painter stifles an inner groan again
as he once more has to destroy the intricate colored masterpiece he has toiled
over.
Once again I hear the shrill whistle outside
the Teepee as I recover from my retching – shreeeeee shreeeeee shree shree
shreeeeee shreeeeee.
Thursday, April 24, 2014
Monday, April 21, 2014
The Worth of a Mans Life
Your own perception of a good life is what is recorded in
your heart, and pumped through your blood for judgment in the after-life when
you stand before your maker. God cares not of what others judgmental perceptions
of someone's life is when it is not their own. Your own learned perceptions through
your own experiences when alive in this world, and the actions and choices you
made along the way regarding the tests that were on the pages in the great pre-written
book that is life. That is what truly matters to god, and that is what a man
truly owns when he sees God for himself. At that time God truly sees who and
what that man really is, and where he is destined to.
Sunday, April 20, 2014
Friday, April 18, 2014
Wednesday, April 16, 2014
Tuesday, April 15, 2014
Thursday, April 10, 2014
Wednesday, April 9, 2014
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