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Saturday, June 28, 2014
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Thursday, June 19, 2014
Marriage Wisdom from an Old-Married-Fool
Marriage Wisdom from
an Old-Married-Fool
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
Anyone who
contemplates marriage usually has deep seeded spoken or un-spoken doubts,
reservations, and fears mostly instilled by their friends and family, not to
mention society in general about whether they can actually spend the rest of
their lives with someone and still love them in the twilight years of their marriage;
rather than want to kill them, blame them, and secretly hate them for years of a
fruitless marriage and a hopelessly
trapped existence with no obvious way
out but an expensive and emotionally devastating divorce, or merciful death.
The truth to why
many marriages fail before their ten year mark is in fact an obvious one
that has existed since the creation of the short double worded statement -“I
Do.” The real reason that many marriages
fall apart is plain and simple SEX, or more to the point – THE LACK OF IT
For the wife in
the relationship marriage becomes more about emotional love over the years rather
than the sexual act of the mechanical relational aspect of love. The trappings
of family life and marriage meld into responsibility and commitment for the
female psyche that hinges more towards stability rather than sexuality. For the
male partner in the long term relationship though, the husband still remains a
young boy in his mind, especially when confronted with ongoing and increasingly
more complicated responsibility and unquestionable commitment. To the husband
sex is usually still the major foundation of their marriage and love becomes
either a convenience, or increasingly more of an inconvenience; mostly again
depending on his needs and not his partners.
The more the
husband is denied sex when he feels he requires it or has earned it, the more the
vicious cycle of sexual animosity manifests itself to both parties involved.
The more the husband acts up or acts out, the more his wife withholds the sex
from her husband that he feels entitled to under law. Finally the boy/man
convinces himself that his entitlement to sex as a “man,” goes beyond his
marriage and the indiscriminant cheating and drawn out affairs begin to happen,
dooming his marriage to its inevitable failure.
Cheaters always
get caught in a marriage and husbands always realize what fools they were to
begin with too late in the game. They proceed to beg for their wife’s
forgiveness and for them to take them back, conditionally or more unlikely
unconditionally. Whether the wife does take him back, or simply and silently
puts up with and endures their spouses indiscretions once again is solely based
on their paternal or internal perceptions of marital responsibility and
commitment, rather than giving their husbands more sex at this point; in fact
the opposite usually occurs sexually and the husband gets even less tang than
he did before after self-creating the isolated capsule that he has made for
himself trying to fly to the moon on his own terms.
Once the thin
line has been crossed between love and hate for the female psyche there is
usually no turning back for her or her husband and the “mutual breakup” becomes
inevitable. This occurrence in the female’s mindset usually is followed by the
negative and unproductively sorry for himself – male hurt feelings. This state
of mind on the husbands part reverts the man even further into the mentality of
the young boy he wishes he still was, and then proceeds to compound his marital
problems even more, usually just in time for his also inevitable – MID LIFE
CRISIS.
The bottom line
and conclusion to this admittedly seemingly hostile to the male mentality and
its attached physical genital appendage that gets husbands in so much
financial, legal, and emotional trouble, is that the ones who stay together for that
eternity of bliss, and sometimes not so blissful happily ever after marriage
are the ones that :
1.
Do so out of both love and fear – love/fear of
their spouses or, fear of living alone now that they are past their prime and
damaged goods on the open glutted dating meat market. (not the best reason)
2.
Secure and subdue their lust while ensuring and
cultivating their love by mutual respect, communication, commitment, and responsibility to each other rather than
individually self-interpreting all four of the fore-mentioned marital musts
that a couple need to share in order to have a healthy, working, and more importantly happy marital
relationship.
3.
Egos must be eliminated, trust must be
initiated, and humility must be cultivated.
The reason I focused
on the male faults that hinder a successful marriage is that I am a male,
egotistical, selfish, ex-cheating, self-loathing, little boy trapped in a man’s
body, twice married old fool, who feels the need and obligation to impart some
hard earned marital wisdom in order to hopefully save someone else the regrets
of learning them later in life rather than sooner. It is also good to remember
that “Till Death Do Us Part,” is just another statement that people use when
put on the spot that really means they have no clue what so ever as to whether
that is really a good thing or a bad thing, or that they are really capable of
the hard work, tough choices, and tests of mutual faith needed to make that
statement a good thing, and true representation of reality in both the couples future.
Good luck and good loving to anyone who is contemplating
making the big step into the big plunge, sincerely - Brian Thomas Armstrong
Monday, June 16, 2014
The Top Ten Simple Truths of Life as We Know It
The Top Ten Simple Truths of Life as We Know It
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
#1. When governments
leave their people nothing left to lose; people choose to lose their governments.
#2. People who judge others refuse to understand others; people who understand other people refrain from judging them.
#3. What we don’t know won’t hurt us; unless it is hurting us already and we just don’t know it.
#4. When things get tough; the weak pack up and leave as fast as they can.
#5. Life is merely an illusion you have created in order to punish yourself for being alive.
#6. Success is usually not a matter of earning it or deserving it; it is usually a matter of opportunity happening to those who were born into it, and usually need it the least.
#7. Ignorance is bliss; suffering is knowledge.
#8. It is better to be dictated by your own flawed logic than someone else’s.
#9. The only thing that you need to instill into your children is forgiveness and unconditional love; it is up to them to understand why, and then learn to use it in their own lives.
#10. A fool listens to a wise man and learns nothing; a wise man listens to a fool and learns - he does not want to be the fool.
#2. People who judge others refuse to understand others; people who understand other people refrain from judging them.
#3. What we don’t know won’t hurt us; unless it is hurting us already and we just don’t know it.
#4. When things get tough; the weak pack up and leave as fast as they can.
#5. Life is merely an illusion you have created in order to punish yourself for being alive.
#6. Success is usually not a matter of earning it or deserving it; it is usually a matter of opportunity happening to those who were born into it, and usually need it the least.
#7. Ignorance is bliss; suffering is knowledge.
#8. It is better to be dictated by your own flawed logic than someone else’s.
#9. The only thing that you need to instill into your children is forgiveness and unconditional love; it is up to them to understand why, and then learn to use it in their own lives.
#10. A fool listens to a wise man and learns nothing; a wise man listens to a fool and learns - he does not want to be the fool.
Cleansing Rain
A Cleansing Rain
by
Brian Thomas Armstrong
Simple tears cleanse my soul
They gently role from cheek to cheek
They heal my wounds of self-infliction
They turn my heart’s aggression meek
My emotions drain and re-arrange in patterns on my face
Dark laced clouds accumulate
And send their cleansing pain
But bright new colors sometimes follow rain
Quandary
Quandary
by Brian Thomas Armstrong
Of all the words I hate to hear
None is worse that comes to ear
Through rain and thunder
Ringing clear
Like gigantic tears on dried skin leather drum-heads
beating
I love you
But do you hate me?
When were alone together
Feeling whole but somehow incomplete
Enclosed with me in our tiny piece of eternity
Unspoken words start to march in my head
They feed my fears
They defeat my facades
They rape what’s dear
They breed what’s bleeding
Then cage what’s free
Marching me ever closer to the thoughts
I refuse to speak because I will not hear them
Screaming
I hate you
But do you love me?
Saturday, June 7, 2014
The World as we Know It
The World as we know it
By Brian Thomas Armstrong
The world as we know it
Can be black or white
It is whiter for others who can see its inner light
Darker for those who have no inner sight
It is brighter for some whether cloudy or sunny
Poorer for some who savior only its money
Glorious and divine to those who seek its true meaning
Inconsequential to those who only mine its gold
Sometimes it’s cruel and demeaning to those
Who lived long enough on it to slowly grow old
When the youth of the world
Fails to listen to the wisdom they hold
The World as we know it can be both black and white
But it is gray for those
Who are unwilling to fight for its darkness or light.
After Almost 8 Years of Obama
After almost eight years of Obama and “Democratic Rule,” can
you truly say that his promises of change, government transparency, financial security,
and hope for a new world of peace have truthfully been fulfilled?
Marijuana acceptance has grown momentum across the nation
along with gay marriage and basic gay rights, but how much of that change was brought
about by Obama’s influence over us rather than an enlightened public that was moving
in that direction anyway?
Are you confident in America’s economy? Anyone who has to
sell something in this country for a living can tell you that no one is buying anything.
We have become complacent with the same-old
same-old whether it is under Republican control or democratic control. How many years of false
“hope” must we be encouraged to endure before we demand real change, real results, real action, and real economic recovery? Regardless of who you vote for in 2016, remember we the people are the only ones we can count on to enact moral, legal, and financial change in our country. Listening to the same old party sing the same old song and dance over and over is only going to get you the new boss that is the same as the old boss regardless of who they claim to represent.
same-old whether it is under Republican control or democratic control. How many years of false
“hope” must we be encouraged to endure before we demand real change, real results, real action, and real economic recovery? Regardless of who you vote for in 2016, remember we the people are the only ones we can count on to enact moral, legal, and financial change in our country. Listening to the same old party sing the same old song and dance over and over is only going to get you the new boss that is the same as the old boss regardless of who they claim to represent.
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